Comments on: Thinking pre-marital counseling is for everyone and post-marital counseling is for failures.

By: Tom Conlon Fans » My Shared Items: Week of December 1st, 2009

Tom Conlon Fans » My Shared Items: Week of December 1st, 2009 — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 15:33:50 +0000

[...] #581. Thinking pre-marital counseling is for everyone and post-marital counseling is for failures. &… – So, so true. [...]

By: rayan

rayan — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 09:27:53 +0000

I am absolutely in favor of divorce counseling because every one should have proper knowledge even you are going for love marriage or arrange marriage because after marriage issues not easy to handle for this one's should go for per and post divorce counseling.

Thanks
Rayan

By: Premarital Counseling

Premarital Counseling — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 09:46:34 +0000

There is no need to ask whether premarital counseling is for you or not. The answer is always YES. Pre-marriage counseling is a psychological counseling given to couples before marriage. It is given to prepare them for and make them aware of possible marital issues that they may encounter in their marriage. Premarital counseling is very important to strengthen a couple s relationships and constructively prepare both individuals, especially while they still have plenty of positive energy in their relationship. Find more information about the premarital counseling from this site.

http://www.marriage-counselors.net/

By: Steve

Steve — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 20:36:14 +0000

Post-marital doesn't always work. It depends on how good a counselor you have and if both parties are willing to talk. My wife and I went to counseling in 2001–my idea, not hers, she went reluctantly, she does not like to talk about her feelings or anything serious, intellectual, or spiritual. We had a terrible counselor–a pastor on the side, btw. He was clueless and said some things that I almost slugged him for; I almost reported him to the state licensing board. My wife dropped out of counseling before I did. We're still together but there is little intimacy of any kind. Marriage does not get easier over time.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 04:34:06 +0000

"Relational komodo dragon" — I love it!!! We have several of those, and the first counselor literally gave me nightmares (in addition to not giving particularly Biblical advice), and my husband has refused to make an appointment with another one, so maybe I'll just climb a tree or something. Can komodo dragons climb trees? Maybe I can just sic a worship eagle with wicked-awesome talons on them.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 13:49:02 +0000

Amen to this! My fiance and I have been out of the "honeymoon stage" of our relationship a while, but we're still not married, and know that we will face a LOT of stuff during our life together. So why on earth wouldn't we want help and counseling to do that, even if it's just problems about laundry days and simple communication?
I've noticed that people are much more excited (and anxious) for your relationship BEFORE you're married…but nobody bothers to check up on the couple four years down the road. It's assumed the couple is "just fine", and they "just got married", and that's supposed to be code for a decent marital status.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 14:05:32 +0000

Post marital counseling is essential. But, for it to be sucessful you must be honest. My husband and I went for "maintenance" counseling, but we were in real trouble. Both of us were so conditioned to keep up appearances that we kept them up to the counselor too. We're still together but after much heartache and tribulation. I wonder what it would have been like if we were honest with the counselor 4 years ago?

on a lighter note:
wv: manailsi – the only condition under which a man would get a manicure.

By: Christina

Christina — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 07:16:06 +0000

I often wonder...how did marriages ever survive before counseling? In fact, how did we survive as a civilization before therapists?

It seems that pop psych has conditioned us all into thinking that forking cash over to a shrink is a vital ingredient for a normal life.

Sorry, Jon...normally I agree with your posts, but I'm gonna beg to differ on this one.

By: Sherri

Sherri — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 04:18:45 +0000

That's why I never got married. Too much $*@(#) counseling.

By: yojohnson

yojohnson — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 03:07:07 +0000

We went to our marital counseling today, and we're so grateful for a godly person willing to take us under his counsel. We've tried to find someone to help us for years, and we were just given the "standard" little marriage 5 week marriage coaching. This is more personal and this is what Jesus' love is like.

Jon, you're hilarious and relevant.