Comments on: Forgiving people who didn’t apologize.

By: Jadin

Jadin — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 22:18:00 +0000

So…
Im debating on wether to forgive my friend. She is rich ,and im kinda on the other side of the turn tables. And she thought it was fun to brake my cell-phone on purpose. What happend was she used it as a pingpong ball and hit it with a pattle , and chucked it on the ground and it split it half , and threw a cue ball at it . By then I went home crying and havent seen her sence and she donsent know what she fully did to me and i want to forgive her but she thinks this is just all a joke . I dont know what the LORD wants me to do . i doughtt she’ll ever apligize but i want to forgive her . Btw im 12

By: Flipflop123

Flipflop123 — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 22:09:00 +0000

wow that was not helpful at all thx btw im a christan

By: Denise

Denise — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 15:24:49 +0000

I’ve come to believe and have taught my children that apologizing shows someone that their healing means more to you than your pride. Conversely, when you don’t apologize it demonstrates that someone else’s feelings mean nothing compared to your own.

By: Judie

Judie — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 04:46:48 +0000

What do you guys think of people who have done you wrong, I mean something that both you and they know was done. Yet they never apologise for it specifically, and just pass the next time, say 'hi' like nothing happened and even expect you to answer or pretend like nothing was ever wrong. Is this plasticity what Jesus requires? Aren't we supposed to follow the 'Come now let us reason' model in Isaiah as best as we can. I think that we are all prisoners of our perceptions. The only way to be free is for both parties to honestly confront each other and lay out their perceptions of the incident on the table. They can arrive at a common truth afterwards. So there's a time and place for everything… sometimes forgiveness just needs tobe done in the heart… and other times when it involves an overt public action, it should be done with the other person present.

I think that our pride gets in the way most of the time.

By: Carol Preston

Carol Preston — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 14:26:26 +0000

I actually had a Christian DIL write a (non) "apology" that essentially went like this; "Please forgive me IF I hurt your feelings while I was [hysterically] expressing myself about [this long list of things that you really did not do.]"

By: As4me

As4me — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 20:53:32 +0000

I am a Christian first and foremost. Do have to point out that difference is always a two coined quarter. Meaning that either the person who starts arguments through dominance. Always, always, always & always. Have no problems telling the aggressive person how I truly feel so can survive in this dog eat dog world too. Clean up people…… as for me I forgive my ownself first. Tired of walking on eggshells around others that mistake my kindness for weakness. Not afriad to speak my mind. have a good day.

By: Ann

Ann — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 15:40:30 +0000

I've been trying to understand the whole forgiveness thing when it comes to a divorce after 20 years. You can't really move on without it, yet I'm sure we both offended one another, if not during the marriage, certainly during litigation. I've decided when God brings something to mind I will forgive either myself or him. I'm sure if we had done the "forgive as you go along as much as neccessary" we would never ended up in a divorce taking 3 years. Hmm. maybe it was the adulterous affair, or possibly all the financial havoc he did before leaving. So much to forgive I just forgive as God calls me to. Neither of us are looking at reconciliation.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 22:34:50 +0000

Great post, and many great comments!

I know someone who makes a point of proclaiming loudly to all in a pre-emptive strike that _they_ 'don't hold grudges'; but of course, -this- is the person who repeatedly steps on other people's toes. Then this person evades apologizing when confronted, and blames all the victims for being 'unforgiving' when they yell 'ow!' The perpetrator then magnanimously declines to bear a grudge against the victims....who can't possibly win.

By: Christopher

Christopher — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 14:46:20 +0000

This is so funny. I think if we had more life skills like dealing with confrontation in a healthy manner, stuff like this would never happen.

If someone genuinely offends you to the extent that you have to forgive them, have the guts to tell them you were offended. Then maybe they'll have a clue they upset you and NOT do it again!

But that's way too practical for most of us

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 18:12:13 +0000

Ugh. SO true.

What's even better is when people "forgive", but still won't friend you on Facebook because "the trust just isn't to that level, yet."

Yeah.