Comments on: Taking the college years off.

By: aprilgirl391

aprilgirl391 — Wed, 22 Dec 2010 01:04:23 +0000

I’m 19 years old and in college and i’m struggling with that problem myself. It was really good to realize that i’m not the only one that puts God on the backburner

By: firefoxred

firefoxred — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:04:40 +0000

I've been looking for this exact list. This will be very helpful for talking to kids at my church.

By: firefoxred

firefoxred — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 17:03:50 +0000

Good point! Visiting other churches is a lot of fun, and it's hard to do after college because if you have a regular church you'll feel responsible to attend it regularly. God is doing a lot of different things through different churches and denominations and it's fun to see that periodically.

By: Saskia

Saskia — Sun, 31 May 2009 17:54:18 +0000

One thing though: casual sex is not the same as sex with in a loving, committed relationship. I’ve had it both ways, and I totally agree that casual sex does not teach you anything you need to know. I’m not very prone to regret, but the few hookups I’ve had only made me realize how much I missed having a relationship and didn’t fill any need I felt. they only emphasized my lonlieness at the time. But sex within a relationship is a very beautiful thing. I don’t think that having sex with more than one partner in a lifetime is so very sinful, as long as you treat yourself and the other with love and respect. I respect those people that wait for marriage, I just don’t think it’s necessary.

It burns me up when all sex outside of marriage is treated like quick fixes, like the only reason people have sex outside of marriage is out of lust. No, people in relationships love each other in quite the same way people do that are married – and sometimes more. I believe that that context (love and commitment and respect) is the context you need for good, holyish sex. Had to get that off my chest.

By: threesixteen

threesixteen — Sat, 30 May 2009 03:01:59 +0000

this desperate feeling for love and being liked gets so strong when your in college …it’s so easy to get so blind and search for ways to satisfy that need in all the wrong places…

thank you for all you said jon…and thank you to all who sent in comments …hav no idea what it feels like to know i’m not the only one that wants to walk a different path …am praying for a Godly group that would encourage me and help me grow to be more of who i’m meant to be..

By: Debbie @Like a Rose

Debbie @Like a Rose — Wed, 27 May 2009 15:18:48 +0000

Awesome post!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 26 May 2009 10:39:16 +0000

Thankyou so much Jon.. I really needed to hear that

By: KC Mom

KC Mom — Mon, 25 May 2009 00:17:37 +0000

My friend Jennifer referred me to your blog today…I’m so glad I stopped by. My oldest daughter just graduated from high school this week and is leaving for college in the fall. I definately want her to read your blog. Thank you for having the faith to write your beliefs and share them with us. You have a gift…truly.

By: SirMax

SirMax — Fri, 22 May 2009 18:01:46 +0000

I would tell them all you said. Great post! I have dealt with my guilt for years and forgiving myself came years after God had already forgiven me!

I pray your sister has a great time at UNC (my alma mater) with God. He is there-alot of people over look Him though!

By: mary

mary — Fri, 22 May 2009 16:36:40 +0000

thanks for your brutally honest words. i think you pretty much summed up my college experience, and what i would tell people. i might add: calling a spade a spade. drinking two to seven nights out of the week to the point of obliteration is called alcoholism, not college.

and i’d recommend the book unprotected by miriam grossman, a psychiatrist who works on college campuses and is speaking out against these harmful behaviors that are endorsed and condoned by health professionals…so good! wish i had that at freshman orientation.