Comments on: The tankini http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/ Musings by Jon Acuff Tue, 22 May 2012 05:54:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Tort http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-204031 Tort Fri, 12 Aug 2011 05:57:00 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-204031 Wow this is actually really relevant! I just attended a youth group beach bbq the other day and sported one of these. Actually, I had no clue it was called a tankini, it's just my swimsuit. Most of the girls there were wearing teeny little bikinis, which i don't really have a problem with, but it did seem a little awkward. tbh have a bikini top that goes with my swimsuit bottoms as well, but I usually wear the longer top, not for modesty, but because IMO its a lot cuter and classy looking than my teeny-weeny little top, and I get self conscious about my belly. Wow this is actually really relevant! I just attended a youth group beach bbq the other day and sported one of these. Actually, I had no clue it was called a tankini, it’s just my swimsuit. Most of the girls there were wearing teeny little bikinis, which i don’t really have a problem with, but it did seem a little awkward.

tbh have a bikini top that goes with my swimsuit bottoms as well, but I usually wear the longer top, not for modesty, but because IMO its a lot cuter and classy looking than my teeny-weeny little top, and I get self conscious about my belly.

]]> By: anonymous http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-201293 anonymous Tue, 26 Jul 2011 03:48:00 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-201293 as you probably already know, boys are way more visual than we are and they tend to have a harder time controlling lustful desires than we women do. i am a believer in christ and i talked to a guy friend (who is also a believer) about what it is like and he said it is extremely hard and it is kind of an insult to him when girls don't dress modestly. i totally understand where you are coming from - you have a point. but at the same time wearing a one-piece, which is a trivial hassle in the scheme of life, is just a way to help our brothers in christ. as you probably already know, boys are way more visual than we are and they tend to have a harder time controlling lustful desires than we women do. i am a believer in christ and i talked to a guy friend (who is also a believer) about what it is like and he said it is extremely hard and it is kind of an insult to him when girls don’t dress modestly. i totally understand where you are coming from – you have a point. but at the same time wearing a one-piece, which is a trivial hassle in the scheme of life, is just a way to help our brothers in christ.

]]> By: Kaitlyn http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-193636 Kaitlyn Mon, 06 Jun 2011 22:07:16 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-193636 Me too. I think if you're swimming everyone else is in similar attire so it's not like you're the sole point of focus versus if you flounced around the grocery store in a bikini. Geez, personal preference, people. Me too. I think if you’re swimming everyone else is in similar attire so it’s not like you’re the sole point of focus versus if you flounced around the grocery store in a bikini. Geez, personal preference, people.

]]> By: Jonathan B http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-184244 Jonathan B Fri, 22 Apr 2011 13:51:08 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-184244 I've always tried to take the view that personal responsibility applies to both sides. Paul taught us not to put a stumbling block in front of others. I think that includes modest attire. But I also think that "so as not to cause men to sin" needs to be changed to "not to tempt men to sin." "Causing men to sin" does indeed ring as an attempt to absolve the man of responsibility, as if he had no choice but to sin because it was presented to him (which it absolutely is in Islam). God doesn't view it that way. The man still has full choice of his actions. A woman can put temptation in the way of a man by dressing immodestly, and I think God does hold the woman responsible for that stumbling block. But God also holds the man responsible not to give in to the temptation. As for rape, there are women who put themselves at greater risk by choice of attire and location, but there is absolutely no justification for rape ever. No one ever "deserves it." I’ve always tried to take the view that personal responsibility applies to both sides. Paul taught us not to put a stumbling block in front of others. I think that includes modest attire. But I also think that “so as not to cause men to sin” needs to be changed to “not to tempt men to sin.” “Causing men to sin” does indeed ring as an attempt to absolve the man of responsibility, as if he had no choice but to sin because it was presented to him (which it absolutely is in Islam). God doesn’t view it that way. The man still has full choice of his actions. A woman can put temptation in the way of a man by dressing immodestly, and I think God does hold the woman responsible for that stumbling block. But God also holds the man responsible not to give in to the temptation.

As for rape, there are women who put themselves at greater risk by choice of attire and location, but there is absolutely no justification for rape ever. No one ever “deserves it.”

]]> By: Ruthie http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-169620 Ruthie Wed, 09 Feb 2011 18:53:37 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-169620 Our daughter is supposed to wear sackcloth till she's 30. Or not. Our daughter is supposed to wear sackcloth till she’s 30. Or not.

]]> By: Ya motha http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-155050 Ya motha Fri, 10 Dec 2010 07:41:02 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-155050 Seriously. Imposing a one-piece or the freaking awkward tankini is really encouraging boys to avoid all responsibility for their thought life and putting the burden on girls. The female body is not something to be ashamed of. To the rest of the world, Christian youth groups continue to look socially awkward, prudish, and oppressive to females. Congrats to the overbearing and legalistic adults who linger around youth groups and have no concept of the bigger picture. They create a massive disconnect from the real world, with little no effectiveness in reaching the lost. Seriously. Imposing a one-piece or the freaking awkward tankini is really encouraging boys to avoid all responsibility for their thought life and putting the burden on girls. The female body is not something to be ashamed of. To the rest of the world, Christian youth groups continue to look socially awkward, prudish, and oppressive to females. Congrats to the overbearing and legalistic adults who linger around youth groups and have no concept of the bigger picture. They create a massive disconnect from the real world, with little no effectiveness in reaching the lost.

]]> By: carolina http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-154735 carolina Thu, 09 Dec 2010 15:54:21 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-154735 i think its the alternative to the birkini i think its the alternative to the birkini

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-141384 Anonymous Sun, 24 Oct 2010 02:47:49 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-141384 I don't think bikinis are all that bad. I wear shorts over my bottoms and i wear a bikini top. I don't think it's bad. Just my opinion I don't think bikinis are all that bad. I wear shorts over my bottoms and i wear a bikini top. I don't think it's bad. Just my opinion

]]> By: cyndi http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-139283 cyndi Tue, 19 Oct 2010 05:06:34 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-139283 Wow. Just wow. Wow. Just wow.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/comment-page-1/#comment-138800 Anonymous Fri, 15 Oct 2010 22:00:47 +0000 http://www.jonacuff.com/stuffchristianslike/2008/03/90-the-tankini/#comment-138800 In our church's youth group, whenever we go swimming (which is pretty rare), we have to wear big T-shirts over our tankinis and one-pieces. In our church's youth group, whenever we go swimming (which is pretty rare), we have to wear big T-shirts over our tankinis and one-pieces.

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